Fifty pounds in 50 weeks. One pound a week, or more than 2 ounces per day.
This was the weight loss goal for Edward Ugel, who spent a lifetime convincing himself and others that he was a "foodie" when in fact he was a compulsive eater - addicted to the "high" of carb, sugar and fat binges.
His struggle, unfortunately, is not unique. We interact with people every day who struggle with food disorders. What sets Ugel apart is the way he tells his story, in his book "I'm With Fatty."
It is an aptly self-deprecating title - one that captures Ugel's deft balance of humor, honesty and painful confession. Consider this passage early in the book, when Ugel goes to a sleep disorder clinic at the urging of his wife, who realizes his fat is blocking his breathing at night while he sleeps. There he is in the clinic, his face covered with a breathing mask that looks like an elephant trunk, when the reality of his situation hits him like an elephant stampede:
What had I done to myself? For the first time in my life, I was scared of being fat. This wasn't about looking good or fitting into an old suit. ...This wasn't funny. This was life support. This was literally life support. I was the elephant in the room. I didn't end up there because of my genes. I didn't end up there because I fell ill. This wasn't some bad hand of cards I'd been dealt. I was there because I wouldn't stop eating. I did it to myself. It didn't have to happen.
And so, faced with the sobering prospect of eating himself to an early death, the father of two sets his 50-pound goal -- inking it in the form of a book deal in which he agrees to chronicle "The Fatty Project." The journey is good, it is bad, it is ugly.
"I'm With Fatty" is funny, sad, and thought-provoking. I consider it a must-read for anyone embarking on a goal or resolution for 2011, or for anyone who knows someone taking on such a goal. You should also read it if you're "that person" who looks down upon overweight people - assuming that they must just be lazy or "weak." Sure, some are. But so are some skinny people. You should also read it if you're at all hesitant about pursuing a resolution for a healthier, fitter 2011.
The fact is, a person like Ugel has a genuine addiction. Working to address it, and with such raw honesty, is admirably Badass. Many of the lessons he learned over 50 weeks are applicable to the Badass Army - whether you're a soldier training for a 5K or a marathon, whether your weight loss goal is 8 pounds or 80.
My favorite "Fatty" lessons:
1. Find that healthy thing that you love doing, and do it: He rediscovers his love of racquetball, and realized it was a way to burn calories. For him, the treadmill was torture. Racquetball is fun. Make fitness fun, or it will never last.
2. Find the absolute freshest ingredients and make a meal around it: Ugel was schooled early on in French cooking, and while French food isn't necessarily light, Ugel's kitchen savvy was key as he set out to cook healthier and eat better. The more you know about what you're putting in your mouth, the more power you have to make it the kind of fuel you need for a leaner Badass. As Ugel puts it: "Shopping smart when you're on a diet is 90 percent of the game." So shop fresh, shop real, and cook often.
3. Know what trips you up, and step away from it: In one brutally honest chapter, Ugel details the downward spiral into bingeing that came one weekend - four months into his 50-week weight loss journey -- when his wife and daughters were away. He ventures out, fully intending to buy healthy groceries, but when he passes a bakery and then a gourmet deli that was a favorite since childhood, it all goes downhill. He orders a donut, a walnut danish ring big enough to feed 12, a huge tub of turkey salad, Italian cold cuts, ice cream, and the list goes on. And yes, he eats them all. Rapidly. All the while, feeling ashamed.
Later, analyzing himself, he fully realizes his addiction. He understands that these foods are a trigger. Just like an alcoholic can't just have one drink, he can't just have one slice of danish:
When I'm in a tailspin like this, it happens fast and it goes deep. It only ends when I'm ruined - too wasted or broke or full to keep it up....I was too busy calling myself a foodie to realize that I'm a food addict and compulsive eater first, and a foodie a distant second.
4. Falling down can mean success...If you get back up: Ugel falls down a few times during his 50-week journey. Sometimes, like during that binge weekend when his family was away, the fall is deep and seemingly insurmountable. But he didn't give up. He got back up and tried to find his way back to the path he needed:
Failure - sometimes intense failure - comes when you change your lifestyle. If it were easy, if anyone could do it, what kind of story would that be? ...Early on, failing was a soul-crushing, ego-bruising loop. But getting back up, and actually finding some success, started to feel good - too good to ignore. Eventually, I wanted to succeed at the Fatty Project more than I wanted to eat.
5. Laugh at yourself: The addiction in this book is not funny, but Ugel is very funny. He can make fun of his beast-like snoring, the anti-snoring mask that makes him look like an elephant - and the very UN-sexy way it makes him look to his wife. Sometimes, when we're struggling through weight issues or even just another hard-core training session, we have to laugh or we might cry. So laugh at yourself. And then keep going...
Coming Friday: Three things that could be holding you (and your muscles) back.
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